They’ve probably been starved for love for a while and are desperate for a relationship with any shadow of a compatible human partner. This is a guy that, after a couple dates together, is already shopping for matching wedding bands and talking about honeymoon destinations. The obsessiveīe careful not to mistake obsession for love. You resign yourself to the fact that it wasn’t meant to be and harbor a secret hope that they fell off a bridge. You check in for a sign of life and silence prevails. Maybe they even paid that tab at the end. You think everything went really well on that first date. This relationship is bad for your self-esteem and has no real future, unless you’re comfortable with being known as “the roommate” for the rest of your life. They could be single on the down-low or married with kids and living in the suburbs either way, they will not be inviting you to meet the family for Thanksgiving dinner, ever. He’ll probably be really nice and want to see you again, but the lack of chemistry and the Tinder message from the hot but dumb guy will pull you away. Sometimes you just want to go on a date and there aren’t any exciting prospects lined up so you’ll accept an invitation from a guy who looks like Janet Reno’s nephew. 0 attraction but you’re bored and desperate As soon as the deed is done, you’ll want them gone. You’ll probably go out with them a few times, and by “go out,” I mean invite them into your bed.
If they spent even a fraction as much time lifting a book as they do weights in the gym, they might have something more to offer. You could be with this guy if they only used their mouth for non-verbal exchanges or had a lobotomy. You were instantly attracted to this person at the bar when you caught each other’s eyes unfortunately, they had to ruin the moment by saying something completely inane. He might flake so flagrantly before you meet that you will never even give him another chance. You may have something down on the books and then the day of, he’s come down with tonsillitis and a house fell on his grandmother.
This guy always seems to have something better to do than commit to a date. Dating these guys makes you appreciate the normal ones so much more. Whether you find them on Tinder, Grindr, OKCupid, or at the local bar, the taxonomy of gay male dating experience tends to break down to twelve major categories. While searching for “the one,” you will come across many who are not The One - or the second or 33rd in terms of desirability or compatibility. Dating is fraught with dead ends and disappointments.